According to The Pictorial Key to the Tarot by A.E. Waite, the Queen of Wands is described as the following:
The Wands throughout this suit are always in leaf, as it is a suit of life and animation. Emotionally and otherwise, the Queen's personality corresponds to that of the King, but is more magnetic.
Divinatory Meanings: A dark woman, countrywoman, friendly, chaste, loving, honourable. If the card beside her signifies a man, she is well disposed towards him; if a woman, she is interested in the Querent. Also, love of money, or a certain success in business.
Reversed: Good, economical, obliging, serviceable. Signifies also--but in certain positions and in the neighbourhood of other cards tending in such directions--opposition, jealousy, even deceit and infidelity.
The Queen of Wands is a woman who is “friendly”, “loving,” and “honourable”. When she is reversed, however, as she is today, our focus shifts to several other qualities of hers: she is “good”, “obliging”, and “serviceable”. This latter definition of her qualities suggests that the Queen of Wands, when reversed, is the perfect hostess figure.
We can learn much from the ideas of hosting and providing for others. The Queen of Wands doesn’t just tell us what we should be like if we have a dinner party coming up; she invites us to use our good hosting qualities in all areas of our life.
Being a good host is about making people feel welcome. If you are attending a social gathering, you want the host to invite you in with open arms, encourage you to share in a way that makes the conversation flow, and be perceptive and prompt enough to provide you and the other guests with anything your need during the event.
With practice, we can take these skills out of the dining room and bring them out into the world.
Imagine You Are Hosting Today
There is one major way that we can improve our hosting in our daily lives to become an effective host like the Queen of Wands no matter what setting we are in: we can develop our empathy.
We can think of empathy as a shared language—it connects people from all backgrounds, cultures, and walks of life. When we are hosting, we take care of the people around us and do what we can to make sure their needs are being met. When we are acting as a host out and about in the world, we can do the same thing, treating people with empathy wherever we go.
Practice your excellent hosting skills today as you interact with others. If you find yourself in a group discussion, note who is being overlooked or spoken over in the discussion, and then invite them to share their thoughts.
If you were the host of a party, you might be concerned about what your guests think of your home. But if you are practicing good hosting skills, you know to focus less on the attentions that the guests direct toward you and your home, and focus more on putting your attention on the guests.
So, centre your focus today on truly listening and engaging with the people around you. Give your attention without expecting any back in return. When you are hosting and investing yourself in the people around you, appreciation will naturally come back your way.
The Host That Others Need
Think of the Queen of Wands with her bold, pleasant look. She may be seated on her throne away from others, but her body language is open and welcoming: people may approach her.
Consider the black cat who sits front and centre before the queen. Cats are known to be independent beings, and yet this cat clearly feels welcome at the side of the queen. An excellent host knows how to reach all kinds of people and let them enjoy their time as part of a group.
As you walk through life as a host today, you will be able to make people feel welcome no matter where you are. Regardless of whether the places you go are familiar to you or not, your attitudes can help make others feel at home in the spaces you share.
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